We met in my Theatre Education class at the end of August and we've been hanging out for quite some time. We're not, official or anything, but...yeah...things are goood???
She likes me and I like to spend time with her. She kinda looks like Lea Michele from Glee, which is pretty awesome. Actually, that was the first thing that I told her. She's nice and all, but...I wanted to try my hand in the dating world, and it dealt me very well, but...I'm afraid to move forward.
Its probably because I don't want to move forward. I do and I don't. I do, because I want to see if this may turn into something deeper and so that I can do what is right and get married and have kids blah blah blah. I don't, because..I'm not attracted to her physically. Yes, I like to spend time with her, but I like to spend time with my feeble aunt....doesn't mean I want to marry my aunt.
Eventually, she'll find this blog, if she hasn't already. If so, Briana, I'm sorry you had to find out this way...so lame.
For example, she came over to my house today and we watched, "While You Were Sleeping". During one of the commercial breaks, this commercial came on.
All I could think about was the guy. Yes, he's attractive, but I thought of myself as the girl. Being together with the man the she loves, a gentle caress, pillow fights....
It really made me want to call it off. But, I kept my mouth shut.
Which was probably a good thing.
If you ask me, you have a really good start. Don't feel like you have to "move forward" just yet. Stay where you are for as long as you feel you need.
ReplyDeleteFor me and my now-wife, between our first date, and the day we started holding hands was 3 months (and that only happened like twice). We didn't officially start dating another 3 months after that (after I told her about my SSA) Then we didn't start kissing until 2 months after that. It was a VERY SLOW process for us, but we moved at a speed that I felt comfortable, and for us, it has worked great.
I wish you the best :) Good luck!
Don't wait too long... It doesn't get easier.
ReplyDeleteIn fact, it may be easier if it happens earlier. She deserves to know.
ReplyDelete@Mister Curie--I know, right? I'm just almost sure that it won't turn into anything, so...I'm just waiting until she...finds out? Probably a bad move on my part.
ReplyDeleteIt's a bad move. If she hasn't figured out you're gay already, she's investing in you emotionally. She'll feel betrayed that you didn't share it with her. It's playing with her heart.
ReplyDeleteA word of advice, always be honest to a woman - and in a timely fashion, especially one that is attracted or interested in you. It's dishonest to lead people on.
ReplyDeleteJust admit that you will never find a girl like me!!! Hahaha.
ReplyDeleteNo...but if I were you, I would let her know. Like, if you don't know what move to make next, tell her. It is DTR(Determine the Relationship) time. If you don't make any moves, she will think that you aren't interested in her. And if you make a move and puke when you kiss her, it will be the worst.
Don't let her figure out about you from someone/where else. BE A MAN!!!
Pardon the pun, but BigRedHammer nailed it. Shut it down now, Andy. That's the honorable thing to do.
ReplyDeleteANDY! Briana?? The one that I met at your house on your birthday?? I think she is swell. And super nice. I would say definitely just be up front about it with her. She seems like a really great girl, and even if you guys don't end up dating, I'm sure you would stay friends... which I think is fabulous, because I would love to hang out with her/you and get to know her better!
ReplyDeleteGood luck!
Love ya!
I actually went to high school with her and I know her quite well. (I saw her post something about seeing Hairspray with you on facebook. I'm not a creepy stalker, i promise.) She is one of the most amazing people I've ever met and she's just so good at making everyone happy. I'm not sure how she would react to the news, but I'm pretty positive she'd still want to be good friends with you even if the relationship was called off.
ReplyDelete@Logan,
ReplyDeleteThanks! That makes me feel good about the whole thing.
Quick question....how did you find out about my blog?
One day I just googled for gay mormon blogs and then I ended up finding some and started following them, including yours.
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