The first night I came out to my roommates, we all had a really good discussion about homosexuality. Tonight, as I was watching figure skating, my roommate from New Zealand comes and sits next to me on the couch. We talk for a bit and then he brings up Prop 8.
Of course, I tell him my opinions.
"I believe when two people love each other, whether they be male or female, should have the constitutional right to be married."
This created a huge debate ranging from "God didn't create Adam and Steve" to "There is so much evidence of kids turning out crazy if they are raised by a homosexual couple". That one turned my blood to ice.
I have good friends who were raised by lesbians and they are as straight as they come. Those friends obviously have issues, but what kid doesn't? He said that there was a shortage of kids who need to be adopted in the country so people have to go "overseas" to adopt kids. I wanted to punch him in the face. How arrogant is this kid? My little brothers and sister were adopted into my family. There is NO SHORTAGE of kids who need to be adopted in the United States. In my opinion it is better for a little boy or girl to be raised by a homosexual couple who will love them, rather to be raised in a foster home, or a place where they will receive no love.
Then, he talked about my membership in the Church. Granted, I am still active. I have been going to Church and fulfilling my calling. I just know that I will have to make one of three decisions:
(1) Stay celibate and live a life alone.
(2) Get over my faggoty ways and marry a woman and try to have sex with her with my eyes closed while thinking of Ryan Reynolds so I can put my seed into her and make a baby so I can be saved in the Celestial Kingdom of Heterosexuals.
(3) Eventually leave the church to pursue a life of gay lasciviousness.
Can you tell that I am a little angry with him? Thankfully, I voiced my opinion. Pretty strongly.
"No!" I retorted, "I don't believe that."
"God did not create homosexuality," he said.
"He made me the way that I am and I have to accept that."
Gosh! What a doofus! Then, to make it worse, EVERYTIME he talks to me about homosexuality, he makes me feel so bad, and so sinful, that he makes me want to hump the next girl who walks into the room so I can be saved by making babies with her.
I am so not going to be able to sleep tonight...
That kind of attitude coming from your roommate is one of the reasons I refuse to tell my parents of my bisexuality. I don't want to always have to explain and defend myself. Besides, it would cause nothing but contention (in which contention is of the devil). There are some pearls I won't ever cast to the swine. I'm so sorry that you were affected by such gross close-mindedness.
ReplyDeleteAnd some Mormons used to think that all black people were the children on Cain. Sometimes when members don't know something for sure they listen to their really close minded parents.
ReplyDeleteI think that this boy is lame sauce.
I don't think that humping a girl that walked into the room would make things better. No woman wants to have sex with you knowing that you are thinking of someone else. That would be terrible for everyone involved.
That's why I couldn't marry you. I know marriage isn't just about sex but I think that that should be a great part.
I think that there is a shortage of babies but not of other 12 month + children who need love and I don't think that there is ANY REAL studies about homosexuals ruining children...just religious people talking. Some religious people have HORRIBLE children. (Bishop's daughter symdrome)
I have actually hear in a BYU human development class that there was a study showing children of homosexuals are generally very happy and feel more secure in their families and are able to be very independant because they know that their parents went through so much just because they wanted and loved them.
In short this man is just rude. It isn't like while you were watching the games you were trying to hump his leg...why is he just starting bullcrap fights.
Good job standing your ground Andy. Amen to Katrina's comment.
ReplyDelete以簡單的行為愉悅他人的心靈，勝過千人低頭禱告。........................................
ReplyDeleteThe above comment says: The behavior of a simple pleasure of others souls, prayer is better than thousands to bow their heads (I Google Translated it)
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh, Andy. I am so sorry that you have to encounter closed-minded bigots like that person. I hope you never felt so upset about any conversation you and I ever had. And I hope you know I will still love you no matter which of the three options you choose - what I most want for you is eternal happiness. Even I can't know for certain what will bring that to you. It's such a shame that people can be so unkind to others facing difficult challenges/decisions. The most important commandments are to love God and love others - that's really what matters when it comes down to it.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry you have to put up with such a tool.
ReplyDelete(3) Eventually leave the church to pursue a life of gay lasciviousness.
ReplyDeleteHow about (4) Find somebody to love (and be in love with), in the way that it is your nature to love, and find happiness in doing so.
That would probably involve "eventually leaving the church", but there doesn't need to be any lasciviousness.
In the meantime, here's the benchmark you use to judge other peoples' comments: Do they uplift you? Do they make you want to be a better person? Do they make you feel loved? Do they bring you closer to God? If not, you can ignore them. (Even a rebuke or call to repentance can be given lovingly and in an uplifting manner, if the motives of the person giving it are loving and caring).
It sounds to me like your roommate is more interested in condemning than in uplifting. I ignore people like that, and suggest you do the same.
OtherSpecies--One day, I hope you do come out to your parents. It's a great feeling of relief once you can finally tell them. It may take you a while...but I think one day it will definitely happen.
ReplyDeleteKatrina--you and I spoke on the phone. I don't need to make any comment to you.
Boskers--I am learning that standing my ground is a good thing.
Mrs. Potts--Love is one thing I think that most people need to learn how to feel. It's hard to get to that point. I thank God that me being gay has made it easier for me to love others.
Mister Curie--he IS a tool.
Scott--I really don't plan on living a life of lasciviousness. I just said that because I was mad. And you are SO right! If his comments don't make me want to be a better person...then...screw him!
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