I wake up in the morning, each day, determined to change my ways. I am determined to eat healthier. And, as the day progresses, it gets harder and harder. Some days I can avoid sugar and carbs like no other. Other days, however, it just seems like I screw it all up again.
I want to lose weight. And a lot of it.
It interests me that fact that many gay men have body issues. Maybe it's the fact that I am so young and still have not truly accepted my body. I just want a better body. And I truly honestly feel that if I do not have a leaner body, and skinnier body that my chance of getting a boyfriend will never come into fruition.
Is this true? Should I just give up the healthy fight? I feel as if I am come so far already down the slope of crappy eating, that I won't be able to come out of it again.
Help!
I can totally relate. Old habits die hard. Sometimes I think it's so hard to stop eating unhealthy crap because I'm so judgmental and hard on myself. I think maybe the key is to be a little easier on ourselves and realize that we're ok the way we are and that there's nothing wrong with us. Now, that doesn't mean settling for where we are in life, but just accepting it. After we do that, then I think it will be easier to move forward and achieve the things we want. Much easier said than done, though, I'm finding. And I really hope that finding a boyfriend doesn't depend on being thin, but sometimes I fear you may be right
ReplyDeletere: motivation...
ReplyDeleteI'm looking for some too. :) I've got 15-20 lbs to lose, or 10 lbs of fat to convert to muscle, or something like that. I think Trevor's on to something when he says that it starts with liking yourself as you are. I think it's easier to want to improve my eating and exercise habits because I like the person I am and want to improve it than because I think I'm not good enough.
re: needing to be thin to find a guy...
I'm married, and not in the market for a boyfriend, but I still enjoy window shopping. :)
For me, the things that I'll evaluate as I'm checking a guy out are (in approximate order):
1) Face / hair
2) Dress / grooming
3) Build
That said, all of the guys I admire tend to be somewhere shy of obviously overweight--they don't need to have a swimmer's build to grab my attention, but I'm more likely to give them a second glance if it's obvious they take care of themselves.
But that's just first impressions. If I think through all of my gay friends and imagine the ones I might be interested in (if I was looking for a boyfriend), I can honestly say that while looks do matter, they're not as important as personality. I could easily see myself falling in love with a guy who had a bit of a belly.
(I'd suggest that you probably don't really want to get involved with someone who places more importance on what you look like than on who you actually are).